Monday, December 17, 2018

He celebrated his freedom at age 18 May 2009

He celebrated his freedom age 18 May 2009

I remember this little guy patiently waiting his turn to go to school.
He watched his siblings excitedly shop for school clothes and the day came
when they all left for school and returned at the end of the day.

I could see in his eyes that he wanted to go too. He would ask when do I go to school?

Well he started what they called Head start. I happened to be at work and for some reason couldn’t be with him on that joyous occasion. He was so excited. Week by week went by and it came. The teacher said he repeated weird things, which weren’t weird they were sayings from his cartoons. She stated that he preferred to play alone. We didn’t know what this was so our search began. Because he paced back and forth the Doctors assumed that it was ADHD. That prompted them to give him Ritalin. We saw the effect. He was hallucinating, drooling and it just wasn’t what I was going to allow him to experience so I told them to take him off.

One day one of my teachers (on my staff) came in during our Summer Program and said Mrs. Tramble I’d like to talk to you and I hope you don’t mind. I said go ahead. My heart began to race because I didn’t know what she was going to say. I guess you gathered by now that this little guy is our son. 

Our son was in her class and she said well, your son (she used his name) seems to show symptoms of Autism. I had no clue as to what she was speaking of but she said that her brother or someone close had it and she worked with others and they had some of the same symptoms. We begin to research. My husband came upon a book called “Rain man.” Which I still didn’t really get it and have since seen the movie. Great movie by the way.

We asked the Doctor to look into it and they said the report shows that he had Autism spectrum, however, we learned of Asperger’s syndrome and requested that they look into that and at that time they said it appeared that he showed signs of this. The journey began.

We didn’t receive much help until about 2007 and each year brought a new phase of things we faced. The saddest time I can remember is when he realized earlier that he didn’t have friends. What we soon found out is that he had friends but just not the kind you take home and go places with. You know that hurt our heart.

One thing he kept asking about was “when do I graduate mom?” I told him at the end of 12th grade. Every year he asked.

It was time. We had reached the beginning of 12th grade. Up until this time This young man my son fought for his freedom to be himself. Freedom to be answered the way he wanted to be answered. Freedom to cry. Freedom to laugh when no one else understood why he was laughing and Freedom to remain serious even when others laughed. Freedom to just be himself.

I was told that the kids would have a little party and they’d get him a cap and gown. I heard this and my heart cried. My son wanted to graduate with the ceremony and all. I was ready for the fight. My son was going to walk down the aisle! I told his teacher my thoughts and she said why Mrs. Tramble the only reason he can’t graduate here is because we go to the 11th. Our son was in special needs so the grade wasn’t a factor and I never even considered that as a reason he wouldn’t have a ceremony with the rest of the children. She said if that’s what he wanted he could graduate at a sister school.

I was ready to fight for his Freedom to graduate as we had fought for his other freedoms.

We celebrated his Freedom May 2009 at age 18. He had his cap and gown on and worked very hard to hold his head up and keep up with the rest of the classmates. That was a day we will never forget. We are forever grateful as we have witnessed many others whose children have real severe Autism. Our son appears to be totally free of any challenge, can communicate well and care for himself.

What Freedoms have you fought for? What Freedoms have you celebrated?

Another Freedom we have today is independence to be a Christian and celebrate our Faith in God. I know that it is because of this that we got through the years that we did and will continue to be victorious.

If you’re experiencing challenging times in your life don’t give in to the challenge, fight for your freedom to be who you are. You don’t have to bow down to the dictates of society. You don’t have to wear labels and become someone other than yourself to appease others. If you’re raising a special needs or special ability child don’t try to make them into anyone else. Allow them to be true to themselves.

Praise God for everyday you have with them. If you look real close they’re teaching us all something. They are truly a gift from God.

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10 Responses to “He celebrated his freedom at age 18 May 2009”
  1. What a wonderful story of strength and courage blessing to you and your family

  2. Dear Robin,
    Thank you for sharing about your family and your unique perspective on freedom.
    I totally agree that we need to fight for our children’s freedom … for ours, it’s the right to attend a virtual charter school and be able to freely express our faith in our schooling at home, instead of being subject to a sub-par school in our community, where they have kicked God out of the school.

    Happy Freedom Day to you and yours.

    Sincerely,
    Donna Johnson
    Founder of WAHMs WIN

  3. Charlotte says:

    Great article. I love that you are defending your sons rights! What a great mom you are.

    I work each day for myself and for other women for freedom from guilt. Freedom from the pressure to preform in a traditional sense and I assist myself and others to live their lives without fear of what others will think.

    • Robin says:

      How empowering Charlotte. I am connected to some great women such as the ones who have taken the time to stop by and share words of affirmation. You’re appreciated.

  4. In our Toastmasters club we have a young man, Bobby, 16, autistic, who comes twice a month to learn how to speak publicly so he can lose his fright around other people. No speeches, he does the impromtu speaking portion. And it is helping Bobby tremendously.
    It is amazing what can be done with love and encouragement.
    Congratulations to your son for achieving what a high number of students in the country don’t achieve.
    He deserves a round of applause! A big round of applause…..
    So do the parents!

    • Robin says:

      Thank you Abigail. What a wonderful story! I appreciate your stopping by to read and comment on my post.

  5. Taquila Coleman says:

    Hi Robin, I know exactly how you felt then, my son has autism also and was told that he wasn’t going to be ready for first grade, when they told me that I said to myself, you don’t know my son, a couple of months later his teacher pulled me to the side and said he doing better than the other kids in class, I think he will be ready for first grade next year. Glory to God. She didnt know that he was a child of God.

    • Robin says:

      Hello Taquila. Thank you for sharing. You never know what God has planned through Divine Connections. I know He has connected you to me and now I know of something we share. Yes Glory to God! They are children of God and He has a plan for them. He knows the plan that He has for them. A plan for good and not evil. Thank you for sharing. “I appreciate you.”Congratulations to you and your son. Keep walking by Faith!

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